Over the past few days I've felt a sense of unease. My mind is aware of it also -- I've been having strange dreams that left me waking up in a bad mood. As I attempted to recognize the problem I thought about many matters, and after 2-3 days I've come to some answers.
Walk away from the crutches, even though its your Very Best buddy
First, I am fortunate enough to have a great companion in San Diego. However, it is crucial to be aware of when you have to walk your path. Quite often, we lean on the shoulders of the others, and in the process, neglect to learn what we should learn how to do ourselves. For example, I'm constantly hanging out with him, and we play video games. This really is great fun, but recently after our LA trip I've felt a sense of waste after playing games. So I flashed my Heroes of the Storm bnet accounts and I have far more spare time in my hands. So the lesson is, find out if you need to develop your strength, and also have the guts to walk away from the best friend. He/she will know, that you will need the time to yourself to develop inner strength.
I've also discovered that my daytime pick up abilities are much better, and that I tend to do much better on my own. From time to time, you need to go out there and see the world for yourself, instead of resenting others for"holding you back", when in fact, you are the one which's doing it!
Seeing the silver lining in everything
For a kid, I used to think that when I am learning the piano in the afternoon, all the other kids are out there playing in the golden sunset! No! I felt a feeling of loss! Yet, nowadays, I am grateful on some nights when I could just be at work and work to my heart's content. No family, no friends bugging nothing. Just me and my work. Sometimes I might feel like this is lonely and perhaps it is, but that's how it's for today, and I have learned to see it as a boon, I get to hangout with my friends when I want to, and possess my own time without being stressed by work or personal duties.
Being cool without"trying"
I have leverage the ability to be current thanks to Ekhart Tolle and I have discovered that when I am relaxed and unstressed, I have a open vibe. People talk to me. "What is that you're buying?" "Hey this elevator is slow huh?" I think that on weekdays, since many people are stressed, an unstressed, receptive energy translates well in contrast to all the pent up energy that people see everyday. I'm lucky enough to have financial freedom at this point in my life, and I will continue to channel a cool, open vibe, even if I am working hard at work.
Presence, and inner love
Being"chill" also signifies non-judgement. When we judge others, in some ways we are also coping with our own demons. This is maybe one of the universal truths of all religions (which has been killed off by religious dogma). Your own presence of light is sufficient -- which alone could sustain you and put in love to the entire world. Sometimes our self gets in the way, and we out of the flicker and magnificent of what's there to start with.
Strive for the finest, judgement free of others
I used to judge others or"despise on them" when they're useless to my goals. I understood now this is the incorrect way to examine the entire world. Everybody is on their own journey. In many ways, my negativity towards them was actually at myself at my own inability to make things function. I must have sought out aid earlier, or acknowledged that I needed to meet new people, rather than resenting my friends. You can't always change somebody, however you could always adore them.
It's ok to be an asshole, sometimes our mistakes teach us the way to arrive at the Ideal solution
In order for me to "find peace".
Or reach a point of acceptance, I had to undergo pain. The pain makes it possible to reach a point (ideally ) of throwing off the baggage of the self.
Intimate relationships, savor all of the life has to offer you. Drink from the fountain
While I used to go for the hottest women, I now want the deepest connections in every area of my own life. Am I drawn to beautiful women? Absolutely. However, my fascination today is more jak zagadać do dziewczyny na uczelni than just a physical one. I find myself losing attraction for shallow beauty, and more in tune with inner beauty.
I'm still attracted sexually to superficial beauty, but in terms of my connections as well as an-ongoing kind of scenario, I see myself valuing a gorgeous woman with great inner qualities as well.